i love cs lewis- and this book makes me feel like he is my companion
on this journey. written after he lost his wife- it is called "a
grief observed"
This quote particularly struck me-
"if a mother is mourning not for what she has lost but for what her
dead child has lost, it is a comfort to believe that the child has not
lost the end for which he was created. and it is a comfort to believe
that she herself, in losing her chief or only natural happiness, has
not lost a greater thing, that she may still hope to 'glorify God and
enjoy Him forever'. a comfort to the God-aimed, eternal spirit within
her. but not to her motherhood. the specifically maternal happiness
must be written off. never, in any place or time, will she have her
son on her knees, or bathe him, or tell him a story, or plan for his
future, or see her grandchild."
another part of the human dilemma-
my maternal humanity stuggles with the soul within.
Praying for you! I saw this quote today and thought of you...I hope you don't mind me sharing it with you: http://love2learnblog.blogspot.com/2010/12/advent-quote-of-day-9.html
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Yikes that is dead on isn't it. I hadn't heard of this book but I know a couple ppl I will send it to.
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Laura
This quote struck me in so many ways. One of the thoughts I had, however, was how sad for all those ladies who purposefully stop their babies lives short. Although from now on you can no longer hold him, bathe him, plan for his future, etc., because you were willing to go as far as he could, you do have some memories of these things. You have all of the months where he kicked and squirmed and rested safely within you. Had he left before he was born, you would still have those moments. But he lived for a while longer and so you have all of the hours where you fed, bathed, massaged, spoke to, hoped, prayed and planned for him. I know it seems piddling compared to a whole life full of such interaction, and I am not saying there is not a loss. I am saying, how much more the sorrowful loss of those who do not have these moments because of their own choices not to walk the distance with their children.
ReplyDeleteI pray especially for Mary's comfort for you.
Thinking of you. I can only imagine what you're going through with this loss, but know that whatever you're feeling is right and ok.
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